...with regards to marriage....
bismillahirrahmanirrahim...
i was on the bus the other day, going to Fort William, when a conversation regarding marriage cropped up (the situation in which this happen was rather suspect, i would think, but that is not the point)
anyways, I was talking about this with my traveling partner, and he asked me about what I think of the matter...
and this was my answer, which I think youths these days tend to miss...
to me, the thing about marriage is that it is not an end to itself, rather, it is a means to achieve an end. what i mean by that is that with marriage, it is not an aim in life; to get married...
this may all seem rather confusing, and perhaps it is. but I tend to think this way. marriage, to me is a tool in order for us to gain something more eternal, a tool for us to achieve what we are suppose to achieve in this life: the redha of ALLAH...
in discussing these matters, I find that people tend to forget that marriage IS an Ibadah, and that when performed with the necessary care and right intentions, one may reap the rewards from it...
what is more, if one think one should get married, and is able to be a good spouse and parent, then one should try to do so.
this may be a rather bold statement to make, but thing is, we are made as the khalif of the ALLAH, and as of now, with the conditions that is plaguing this world, we can't afford to indulge in ourselves too much and what we want. we often lose sight of the grand scheme of things, that is, that other people have their rights on us. If we think too much about what we want in life, and indulge too much on ourselves, there is the possibility that we neglect other issues in this world that we should not have.
and what is more, marriage, to me, is not as it portrayed in the tv; there is no such thing as having a smooth sailing until the end. there is no such thing as happily ever after; inevitably there must be conflicts. and one cannot be fully prepare for a married life until one actually marries. therefore, it would be foolhardy to think that one can enter a married life only when one is ready.
however, having said that, it is not to say that one must not ready oneself. that is far from the truth. what i meant by that is that one can never be fully prepared for that life...
in short, on considering about these sorts of things, one must not simply think about oneself, and what impacts it would make to oneself. rather, there is the whole world to be thought about. if one procrastinate without good reason, and that there are other obligations and rights of other people that one is not fulfilling, then one might need to bear the consequences in the hereafter...
after all, this life is going to end. and it matters not what one's excuses are. if a right is not fulfilled, then one will always have to answer for it.
in the grand scheme of things; that is how one must always try to think....
but of course, ALLAH knows best...
wallahua'lam
i was on the bus the other day, going to Fort William, when a conversation regarding marriage cropped up (the situation in which this happen was rather suspect, i would think, but that is not the point)
anyways, I was talking about this with my traveling partner, and he asked me about what I think of the matter...
and this was my answer, which I think youths these days tend to miss...
to me, the thing about marriage is that it is not an end to itself, rather, it is a means to achieve an end. what i mean by that is that with marriage, it is not an aim in life; to get married...
this may all seem rather confusing, and perhaps it is. but I tend to think this way. marriage, to me is a tool in order for us to gain something more eternal, a tool for us to achieve what we are suppose to achieve in this life: the redha of ALLAH...
in discussing these matters, I find that people tend to forget that marriage IS an Ibadah, and that when performed with the necessary care and right intentions, one may reap the rewards from it...
what is more, if one think one should get married, and is able to be a good spouse and parent, then one should try to do so.
this may be a rather bold statement to make, but thing is, we are made as the khalif of the ALLAH, and as of now, with the conditions that is plaguing this world, we can't afford to indulge in ourselves too much and what we want. we often lose sight of the grand scheme of things, that is, that other people have their rights on us. If we think too much about what we want in life, and indulge too much on ourselves, there is the possibility that we neglect other issues in this world that we should not have.
and what is more, marriage, to me, is not as it portrayed in the tv; there is no such thing as having a smooth sailing until the end. there is no such thing as happily ever after; inevitably there must be conflicts. and one cannot be fully prepare for a married life until one actually marries. therefore, it would be foolhardy to think that one can enter a married life only when one is ready.
however, having said that, it is not to say that one must not ready oneself. that is far from the truth. what i meant by that is that one can never be fully prepared for that life...
in short, on considering about these sorts of things, one must not simply think about oneself, and what impacts it would make to oneself. rather, there is the whole world to be thought about. if one procrastinate without good reason, and that there are other obligations and rights of other people that one is not fulfilling, then one might need to bear the consequences in the hereafter...
after all, this life is going to end. and it matters not what one's excuses are. if a right is not fulfilled, then one will always have to answer for it.
in the grand scheme of things; that is how one must always try to think....
but of course, ALLAH knows best...
wallahua'lam
